Why I’ll never be on The Bachelor or compete for a man

It’s interesting how girls are brought up. I’m not sure about you, however I was told that I would grow up and my prince charming would find me. We’d live happily ever after. Clearly, life isn’t a fairytale. What’s more, prince charming seems to have been otherwise occupied, hence why he hasn’t stopped by to declare his undying love for me. Oh well, that’s life.

It seems that life has evolved and we now live in the age of reality TV where women compete for a man. Shows like The Bachelor, Please Marry My Boy and Farmer Wants a Wife are all about this one thing. These shows are all centred on ‘getting the man’ and winning the ‘prize’. Okay, so the ‘prize’ is his love however can you really fall in love in a situation where you are dating multiple people and have a camera watching your every move?

The Bachelor Tim

The Bachelor Tim

Don’t get me wrong. I do love reality TV. It’s just dating is hard and relationships are complicated enough, so why add an extra layer of complication to the whole situation?

I’m the first to admit I don’t do complicated very well. I also don’t think I would enjoy seeing other woman date ‘the man’. It’s kinda weird. Oh, and having to debrief with the other girls, I mean really, who wants to know how someone went on a date with ‘the man’ you’re also dating?

The other girls always seem to be genuine , lovely, nice. However, they also seem to be remarkably attractive, slim, with beautiful clear skin, fabulous hair and look damn hot in a bikini. Whilst this is wonderful, amazing for ‘the man’, for the everyday girl it’s just annoying.

I think that’s why I won’t ever be on one of ‘those’ shows. I don’t quite fit that mould. I’m a bigger than average girl whose hormones seem to rage rampant every month and therefore doesn’t really have clear skin. I wouldn’t call myself slim or attractive but I do have amazing blue eyes. My hair is curly and still growing back after I lost half of it a few years ago. But I think the clincher is that I would look DREADFUL in a bikini. I actually don’t even own a bikini. I tend to push, squeeze and shove my above average body into a one piece complete with board shorts over the top to hide my dimpled, cellulite ridden thighs. It isn’t the most appealing sight.

The strange thing about all of this, I was also taught looks aren’t everything. I know I’m a decent person with solid values. I can laugh at myself and like to have fun. Quite possibly, I have more to offer than the other female participants. However, in this stereotypical society, I will never ever be on a show to ‘win’ a man.

The Bachelor Girls

The Bachelor Girls

On the emotional side, why would I do it to myself? It doesn’t make sense. What happened to dating one person and getting to know them, just them? I can only feel ‘sort of’ sorry for ‘the man’. It must be hard having to remember several female names and all the other bits of information they tell him. It must also be hard to deal with the emotions. Let’s face it, one female’s emotions are generally enough for any man to deal with, let along multiple emotions from multiple women.

I think I’ll just stick to the tried and tested method of one man at one time. No other females (hopefully). No bikinis either.

Oh, I have plans on a Wednesday night from 7.30pm to 8.30pm. I have a date with The Bachelor. Just so you know I’m watching it for the fairytale love story. After all, that’s what I was taught. Such a dreamer, aren’t I?

Jen xoxo

16 thoughts on “Why I’ll never be on The Bachelor or compete for a man

  1. Dannie (A Dose of Dannie)

    OMG! I watch Tim *sigh* wow! can’t remember the womens name in that white short dress as pic above no wonder she left (pity i missed that episode) Bugger Catty is a lame erm to use for that one LOL Love watching it i agree with all you said (my teen want a teen Big brother) WT? So she can go on it oh vey!!!!

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  2. Renee at Mummy, Wife, Me

    I’m a dreamer too, Jen and I do love this show! I will be glued to the tv come 7.30pm Wednesday night also. That’s not saying that there is so much wrong with the show. I posted on my personal facebook page last week about the outfits the girls were wearing when playing poison ball. I couldn’t believe it!!!! What if you were a bigger lass? It really did not sit well with me. Anyway, I will continue to watch and b!tch about it on social media 🙂 Good luck on finding your prince charming. I’m sure he’s just around the corner 🙂

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    1. Jen Post author

      Yes its so cringe worthy but i can’t look away!! They certainly highlight the girls figures. But i certainly wouldn’t look good at all!! Although Tim is definitely a good looking man. Thanks for stopping by.

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  3. Kirsty @ My Home Truths

    I’m so with you on this one – I would never go on such a show (I’m also the wrong type for these sorts of shows) and I can’t believe that true love could ever emerge from such manufactured and artificial circumstances…just don’t understand it at all…

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  4. Zita

    Couldn’t agree with you more Jen!!! Over the years so many of my friends have encouraged me to go on one of these shows! My biggest thing was that I don’t handle rejection very well (who does?) and couldn’t thing of anything worse than being rejected on national television….! Provided I even made it to that point! Also, I can’t handle all the tears and emotional ‘I think I love him after 2 days’ BS that so many of the girls go on with!!!!

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    1. Jen Post author

      Yes, yes and yes!! Girls united Zita. How on earth can you love a guy after a few days when you’ve only spent hours together. I’ll never understand!!

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  5. Zoe Amy

    I gotta admit, I kinda enjoy watching it. Its some sort of schadenfreude thing. I wouldn’t let my kids watch it though (if I had any). What terrible things to be teaching children. Ugh.
    The idea that we’re taught to grow up to get married… It just makes me angry.

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  6. Mystery Case

    Well I don’t watch tv as it is but reality tv would be the last type of show that I would watch. I don’t get those dating show either. Who wants to share and fight over a guy, who is probably not that great anyway.

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    1. Jen Post author

      Let’s face it, he’s made to look good. His faults will be exposed after the show. Would hate other women dating a guy I’m interested in.

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  7. Rhonda

    I used to watch a Farmer Wants a Wife, the original series, but then lost interest because I read the behind-the-scenes articles in some magazines.

    Last month I caught a glimpse of a Chinese dating show on SBS called If You Are The One. It was more hilarious than anything. Life’s been so busy I can only watch catch up TV . So I rarely see trailers for other series.

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